we then moved into the town he had been commuting to when buddy was about 5 months old. but during this time there was a house to restore and the stress that came along with that. i look back at that time with some regrets. i wanted to post about this for you mamas who are maybe expecting your 2nd. this is what i wish i knew:
- the laundry will eventually get done
-it's ok to just lay around for a week or so after the baby is born and stare
- encourage the toddler to do it with you!
- don't expect your toddler to be up to par behaviorally with where she was before the birth. she needs to transition too.
- go easy on yourself
- go easy on your toddler
i wish i could take back all the exasperated sighs, or the times i expected moonpie to act like anything else but a two year old. i wish i would have sat longer gazing at my buddy instead of rushing to get dinner done. i wish i would have asked for help more.
i look forward to our next pregnancy. i know it will be rough adding a third, but i think i've gained some wisdom about not sacrificing the feelings of the older on behalf of the younger. not expecting more out of myself or the kids than i should. relaxing more. expecting my friends to clean my bathtub and make me dinner (you know who you are!). and just living gentler.